I love using the metaphor of a traffic light. It has clear signals. Red means stop. Yellow means proceed with caution. Green is GO!
What if you could apply this to your dating readiness? Would that help you see where you are in your journey to find a soulmate?
The Red Light: Dating is NOT recommended!
The red-light stage is a time for self-reflection so you can get back to your true sense of self.You're exploring who you are and what you want for your life.
This is also the phase when you're seriously practicing self-care.
People often enter this stage after the end of a relationship.
If you're recovering from a breakup or divorce, you may be asking yourself, "What just happened?" You may even be in shock or mourning.
Or maybe you've lost your soulmate and best friend to death. You probably never imagined life without your partner. Now, however, you have to. You grapple with deciding what matters most to you now.
This is a time to re-establish your ties with supportive friends and family. You may also choose to hire a life coach to help you rediscover yourself again. You'll also want to ask yourself questions like, "What are my passions? What makes my heart sing?"
This is a time to be kind to yourself and give yourself the time you need to heal.
The Yellow Light: Dating to Learn about Yourself.
Perhaps you're yearning for a life companion. You either miss or dream about having that special person in your life -- the connection and intimacy. This is when you need to proceed with caution when it comes to dating!
When you're in this stage, you're still in a vulnerable state. You may think you're ready for a deep and lasting relationship, but you're not really.
However, youareready to explore what's out there and see dating as an adventure. (In this stage, if you meet someone who is gung-ho for you, you will most likely wind up pushing them away because you're simply not as ready as you thought.
When you're dating with a yellow light, you're dating as a learning experience. You know what you want for yourself much better now than when you were in the red-light stage. You see dating as a personal growth experience and you're right. This is the time for you to see what works best for you and what doesn't. Building resilience and more self-confidence are the goals.
In the yellow light stage, I recommend you take a class that expands your knowledge of relationships and also builds your circle of friends. Do activities that you enjoy and where you'll meet people with whom you'll connect. Having single friends to share activities with is important since your married and coupled friends may not be able to spend as much time with you.
Here you still keep your heart protected and don't let anyone get too close. Having a good support system as you venture out is very important -- that can include a trusted friend or family member, a relationship coach or therapist.
Green Light: Ready for Love
When you're in the green light stage, you've done the inner work necessary to be a healthy and whole person with a solid sense of self-worth. You're now open and ready to fully love again.
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It's time for you to go full force and find ways to meet people who are aligned with your goals and values. You're dating online, asking friends to introduce you and open to meeting people you may not have considered before. You look for social groups and Meetups specifically for singles.
You may even consult an image consultant to update your look, buy new clothes for dating and get new photos for your online postings.
In the green light stage, you seek the support of going through this journey with likeminded people. Perhaps you join a coaching group supporting singles seeking life partners.
You learn to refine your boundaries and be purposeful in your pursuit of meeting that special person. You see the world as your oyster and you're ready to embrace the possibility that special person is out there for you!
So where are you on your path for finding true love?
The Motivated to Marry coaching program will help you get to the place where you're truly ready to meet your true love partner.
The sooner you jump on this, the sooner you'll have the tools and strategies to attract the high-quality person with whom you desire to connect. You'll have the confidence to weather the ups and downs of dating too.
Let's talk so we can get you the clarity you need to attract the right person.
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